Named among the best books of 2003 by the San Francisco Chronicle and the Advocate
Winner Lambda Literary Award
Winner Publishing Triangle Judy Grahn Award
Publishers Weekly "[A] painful dynamic—driven by Faderman’s conflicting need to save herself and her mother—drives the book to disturbing emotional depths."
Kirkus "Noted gay-studies scholar Faderman crafts one of those rare autobiographies that conscientiously detail the temptations of destructive behavior while also celebrating the resilience of the human spirit."
Los Angeles Times "A frank and moving book. . . . An exhilarating narrative of [Faderman’s] life."
Boston Sunday Globe "This ungentle memoir spares no feelings, least of all the author’s, as it tells a riveting tale of truths more dangerous than fiction."